It was with a great deal of concern and a small dose of humor that I came upon this article:
Why on earth would anyone be intimidated by this adorable little girl? Hmmmmm……I don’t know……….perhaps because destructive behavior in children is at the very least a symptom of boredom? At the worst, destructive behavior is an early indicator of anger and lack of empathy for others and other peoples property (i.e. OPP). If not nipped in the bud, “destructive tendencies” in children becomes conduct disorder in teens. Conduct Disorder is a precursor to…..wait for it…….here it comes……adult ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOR!
In the U.S, a child under 18 cannot be diagnosed as having Anti-Social Personality Disorder. This is because children’s personalities are still forming and it is still not too late to get them help. So, you see, the issue with Miss Caidence Leadbitter’s destructive behavior is purely semantics- for now. As she gets older, as long as her important female role model condones and makes excuses for her, she has no clue about how to start behaving like a pro-social young lady.
Rather than feel outrage and upset that their children be called out on their destructive tendencies, the parents of these children would serve their kids and society better by explaining to said kids that they should NOT trample plants, damage trees, or do any other harmful thing to OPP, or (most especially) to living organisms. Unless the light bulb comes on and these parents understand that damage to ANY property is NOT socially acceptable, continued BAD BEHAVIOR as an adult CAN and WILL be labeled as Anti-Social!
My take on the situation is that these kids are a) bored b) lack empathy c) lack proper supervision d) are mean and cruel to living organisms……PERIOD! To be fair, these kids ARE just kids and as such, still have a chance to change their behaviors. However, on the other hand, their parents need not be derelict in their duties as role models; they need to chastise and teach these little girls that the destruction of property is always WRONG whether it is in their own yard, or otherwise. Getting outraged and making light of a child’s WILLFUL DESTRUCTIVENESS is IGNORANT- no matter how you try to spin it.
Spreading The Love………
…….to ALL Living Things…….
…….at home and EVERYWHERE!
If you have read my blogs regarding my experiences with the Catholic Church, you know by now that I am NOT religious. However- I am very spiritual and I do believe in Jesus Christ and his teachings. As such, I try to use scriptures and the Lord’s role model as an example of how to think and live.
Conversely, I am also not perfect. Far from it. From time to time I have been jealous, resentful, angry……..and well…….you get the picture. That said, it is possible that you the reader will not always agree with what I have to say. If ever you disagree, I would love to hear your side and welcome any intelligent debate.
Whether abuse happens to a man, woman, child or animal, there is no disputing that you would never do the things listed below to a friend. If you wouldn’t do these things to a friend, why on earth would you do any of these things to someone three times smaller? Only a bully would……I guess!!!!! Here are some examples of different kinds of abuse.
- Hitting with belts, switches, or other weapons
- Washing mouth out with soap
- Pulling hair
- Yanking on limbs
- Throwing objects
- Failing to provide a safe and emotionally nurturing environment
- Failing to protect from the harm of others
- Neglecting physical and dental health needs
- Punishing for being hungry
- Constant criticism or consistent failure to praise
- Calling derogatory names
- Forcing to view porn
- Forced affection as a prelude to unsolicited sexual advances
- Sexual exploitation
- Any type of recording or photographing of sexual encounters without the permission of all parties involved
There are certainly more examples. If you know of or can think of more, please feel free to add your comment so that I can update my list. Additionally, abuse is subjective- meaning, two adults engaging in mutually agreed upon sexual behavior is not considered abusive, i.e. BDSM or playful wrestling as foreplay. If either party feels coerced by any means, it’s WRONG!
I personally do not condone slang or culture derived labeling of others related to race, gender, disability, sexual orientation, or intellect. I think bitch, ‘hoe, and beyotch are all derogatory to females and should never be used or tolerated. Likewise, calling a male an asshole, prick, or sonofabitch should never be used or tolerated. Everyone deserves dignity and respect, of which, respect is earned and is not something that can be expected of others that you mistreat.
This philosophy should especially be taken in consideration of what we wish to teach the impressionable young as they try to figure out what kind of human being they are going to be in life. That said, most children are indoctrinated with the beliefs and behaviors of those who came before them because they have no other frame of reference. Do YOU care enough to rise to the challenge of challenging the outdated child-rearing practices that have been handed down from generations past? Surly, there are people who were never been spanked, or screamed at, or criticized to the point of self loathing- and they turned out just fine too!
The world needs more people like you, Nick Cannon. I want to say that Mariah has herself a very nice young man for a husband. Your children have a compassionate and understanding father.
I too feel for Amanda Bynes. She IS an extremely talented young lady and I enjoyed every movie she made when I watched them with my son as he was growing up. It makes me sad to see people judging her for things they know nothing about, or telling her that she needs to wise up, or any other unsolicited advice as to how to handle her life and current situation. People need to think to themselves “there for but the grace of God go I.” Not that I’m a religious person, but the saying is universal and still relevant when witnessing another person’s suffering.
As someone who has survived 39 years of interpersonal violence, I can assure you that it is quite easy to dissociate from trauma and become the someone that everyone else thinks we SHOULD be, but really aren’t. This projected identity is UNREAL and when REALITY breaks through it is no laughing matter.
I hope more people will continue to support Amanda and understand that hard times could happen any one of us at any given time.
Peace & Love-